Wednesday, November 12, 2008

Was it, or was it not?

I may, or may not have been asked out on a date yesterday.

At the end of class, one of my classmates walked over to me as I was gathering my bag and jacket and asked
"Do you have lunch plans"
I was more than a little surprised, which I will further explain in a moment, and replied.
"I have therapy pretty much right now" (which was the truth.) "Let's do it some other time, though."
She said 'ok' and essentially ran away.

It was really only afterwards that I began to wonder if this was her asking for a date and not just a friendly lunch.
She is absolutely brilliant, and were I not otherwise involved, I would certainly go on a date with her.
Given that I am, I would definitely have a friendly lunch with her and want to be friends.

I am having a hard time wrapping my head around the idea that someone like her would be interested in someone like me, for really stupid and superficial reasons (besides the fact that I'm really unaccustomed to being asked out), for example, that she has a higher number and more prominent facial piercings than I do, and I believe is at least 5-10 years older than me. Stupid, right? But I am kind of... preppy or something if we are still using those ideas of aestetics, at least in comparison to many of friends and colleagues in grad school, or for that matter the city at large. Never mind that I'm almost certain that she would have heard me mention having a partner.

So: was this asking for a date? Was it not? Did I respond properly?